I was going to leave it at that as well, until I saw your comment, and would like to respond on a few points :
-Interpretation that I dump responsibility on Jerome is indeed to be put at your credit (you may remember the two of us tend to step in to defend Jerome while he is well placed to do so by himself when he feels it needed) but in the present situation, inaccurate ;
-What I went through is definitely too private to be displayed in such a wide space (as you pointed out, here are more than 2000 members) ;
-I did not mean to exclude anyone by discriminating between those who I could confide in and the others ; I apologise if that's what you sensed ;
-It drives me too emotional to talk and, worse, write about it, so I thought someone could sum it up in a less sensitive way than I would do ;
The last thing I would wish is add weight to anyone's burden, especially Jerome's.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill

I don't think weighting who has more on their real-life plate leads us anywhere, especially with the distinct degrees of information at hand.
Okay, I give you a break with innuendos if you stop making them. It is truly offending to hint that I would put my interests before anyone's difficulties/distress. Lack of modesty does not imply utter selfishness.
I suggest a truce for now.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill