You may feel yours is complete, it may just be underway and the self it will unveil is going to be a mix of your old self and the changes you decided to welcome.

Hmm, in some ways I have changed considerably in the last 4 years, in others barely at all. I am forever the frog on the lily pond, halfway to shore. Each time I jump I'm halfway there, but never quite.

It is like if you live in one country till your mid forties, if you move to another you will always be a "foreigner". However hard you try to integrate, however much you love the culture, your accent and manners mark you out as "not from round here". That's me, too much testosterone in my past to really understand being a girl.

keep to the Fen Causeway