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Sorry if I missed it, but did you meet the father?  

I mean, I obviously have no clue what truly happened to the child.  How could I possibly know?  But in cases of abuse, it is not uncommon for partners who are being abused (any form) to deny that their children have been abused.  It sounds unconscionable, but is not unusual.  Of course, it may very well be an accident.  And who would not want to believe that?  Who could intentionally harm their own child?!  And those who have, surely are monsters, with tell-tale signs of monsterdom : lack of remorse, lack feelings, anti-social behavior.  No one who believed they loved their child could hurt their child, right?  ...Er, wrong.

I have no children, but have done a lot of baby-sitting, and totally sympathize with the kinds of close-calls your describe.  

I am just saying, on the one hand, we give parents the benefit of the doubt because ... who are we to judge? what if we are wrong and ruin someone's life in the process?  etc.  But adults can advocate for themselves, whereas children can't and have infinite reasons not to.  

Not all people who have done terrible things have "Bad Person" stamped on their heads.  

This is a truly tragic story.  I guess I am a bit more ambivalent about the situation, taken in whole.  

"Pretending that you already know the answer when you don't is not actually very helpful." ~Migeru.

by poemless on Fri Jan 11th, 2008 at 02:26:34 PM EST

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