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My brother in law was adopted at age 18 months. During those 18 months he had been in several foster homes, and was abused in at least one of them.

During his life he never was able to form a proper attachment to women. He never managed to recover from the first 18 months of life.

My wife's family was desperately hoping that he would be gay. Unfortunately that did not happen. Even though his father is a pacifist he repeatedly expressed hope that his son would join the military - some form of structure that would help him function in society. That too, did not come to pass.

We buried him a few years back. He died of a heroin overdose.

If you are a bad parent, so are my mother and father. At age three I was found by police quite some distance form home wandering through an uncompleted building complete with open elevator shafts.

With the woman you talk about, I hope that great care is taken. I hope that they are able to show compassion and wisdom. I hope that they understand that everything they do is harming the child - and will temper what they do not on the side of justice, but on the side of care for that child. The rules over smoking (I am a very militant anti smoker) make it sound like they may have partially lost their way.

aspiring to genteel poverty

by edwin (eeeeeeee222222rrrrreeeeeaaaaadddddd@@@@yyyyaaaaaaa) on Fri Jan 11th, 2008 at 10:50:06 AM EST
Apparently low-income families are more likely to be foster carers. Either because there is an adult that doesn't work already, or because of the perverse incentive that the Child Benefit payments (a meagre 70 pounds a month) make to the family's finances.

The idea that foster parents may be doing it because they get 70 quid a month from the government is horrifying to me.

We have met the enemy, and he is us — Pogo

by Migeru (migeru at eurotrib dot com) on Fri Jan 11th, 2008 at 11:03:00 AM EST
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