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I've never understood cigarettes. I kind of understand that it's hard to stop because you're addicted. But you don't really get anything from the things in terms of pleasure, now do you?

At least a joint gets you high and a cigar can taste nice...

by nanne (zwaerdenmaecker@gmail.com) on Thu Nov 20th, 2008 at 03:11:49 PM EST
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The boss I mentioned once tried to kick the habit, he said (then) that he was fed up with it. Sadly his idea of kicking the habit was to believe some charlatan who advertised instant de-addiction with the help of "bioresonance".

At the next difficult situation when all his instruments were breaking down, he started it again.

Now he is worse than before, he is a literal chain-smoker. He can't go to the toilet without it, igores smoking/non-smoking zones totally, that is unless I am in his presence to complain loudly.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Thu Nov 20th, 2008 at 04:52:28 PM EST
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that is unless I am in his presence to complain loudly.

Why do you complain??   Just leave him alone.

by Jagger on Thu Nov 20th, 2008 at 08:29:22 PM EST
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Huh!? Is this a snark, or are you this inconsiderate?...

For one, I can't 'leave him alone' -- he's my boss, I work under him, you know... Second, his smoke won't leave me alone, when he puffs full all the jointly used rooms where he would not be allowed to, unlike in his own room -- in particular the toilet, which has poor ventillation, and the alley, from where in seeps into every room (including mine) across non-airtight doors.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Fri Nov 21st, 2008 at 02:55:06 AM EST
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It´s too bad the addiction goes so deep and he doesn´t make an effort, but do you realize that complaining is a reminder/trigger that makes him want to smoke even more?  It just reinforces the guilt of the behavior and gives a bad feeling that ´calls´ for a nicotine fix.

Depending on how you relate to him, maybe you can give him positive ideas to not light up, like what makes you glad that you don´t smoke.  Those ideas should come from him, but if you are stuck with an addict, don´t remind him how bad he really is because it won´t work.

Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.

by metavision on Sat Nov 22nd, 2008 at 06:42:43 PM EST
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bingo!

he's getting the attention he craves, and is asking for by exhaling in your presence...

appeals to better nature work better than banging the guilt drum... neither is guaranteed to gave an effect, as smoking, like any other autolesionismo, is more symptom than disease.

the disease is a black hole where love belongs.

'The history of public debt is full of irony. It rarely follows our ideas of order and justice.' Thomas Piketty

by melo (melometa4(at)gmail.com) on Sat Nov 22nd, 2008 at 07:39:39 PM EST
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Some smokers, like my father, his brother, and my father-in-law, have been able to just quit once and forever when they decided it was time.  I have known others though that just can't seem to quit even when they desperately wanted to. One lady could quit when she was pregnant but started back each time after the  delivery.  I tried, unsuccessfully, several times to help her quit, but she could never make it for more than a few days.

I can swear there ain't no heaven but I pray there ain't no hell. _ Blood Sweat & Tears
by Gringo (stargazing camel at aoldotcom) on Thu Nov 20th, 2008 at 11:02:41 PM EST
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