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It´s too bad the addiction goes so deep and he doesn´t make an effort, but do you realize that complaining is a reminder/trigger that makes him want to smoke even more?  It just reinforces the guilt of the behavior and gives a bad feeling that ´calls´ for a nicotine fix.

Depending on how you relate to him, maybe you can give him positive ideas to not light up, like what makes you glad that you don´t smoke.  Those ideas should come from him, but if you are stuck with an addict, don´t remind him how bad he really is because it won´t work.

Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.

by metavision on Sat Nov 22nd, 2008 at 06:42:43 PM EST
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bingo!

he's getting the attention he craves, and is asking for by exhaling in your presence...

appeals to better nature work better than banging the guilt drum... neither is guaranteed to gave an effect, as smoking, like any other autolesionismo, is more symptom than disease.

the disease is a black hole where love belongs.

'The history of public debt is full of irony. It rarely follows our ideas of order and justice.' Thomas Piketty

by melo (melometa4(at)gmail.com) on Sat Nov 22nd, 2008 at 07:39:39 PM EST
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