Simply saying, "Women should be able to wear whatever they want," doesn't really mean anything, coming from me.  It's what I'm supposed to say, and that very fact renders it suspect. But clarify that comment in a way that makes it particularly mine, and I'm telling women what to wear and oppressing them in all the ways you've described.

I feel rather hesitant to even say this much, as I'm sure it's igonorantly offensive in a variety of ways I've not thought of.  But I don't want your diary to die uncommented, as it is an important issue and a valuable topic for debate, and the chilling silence that it seems to be receiving is just not right.