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Christmas depression : how Santa fuels the economy

by Agnes a Paris Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 07:41:04 AM EST

from the diaries. -- Jérôme

I was pacing the streets of Paris this afternoon, painfully making my way the crowd of people loaded with Christmas gifs bags and looking stressful as they were about to take the most important job interview whilst their wife endures labour pains or had lost their 4 children in the forest without even having sought it. I was just taking advantage of an unusually sunny day; they were people on a mission.

It occurred to me that no significant economic slump had ever taken place during the Christmas break, and also, that psychological assistance hotlines were recording their peak activity at year end. A psychology student friend of mine told me whimsically that the shopping spree was a mere compensation for the end year melancholia. She conceded that parents of young children might be an exception, because only they have good motives not to wait the post Christmas sale and cannot avoid paying the double for the sake of the enlightening the kids' eyes at the wonders of Santa.


Okay, there is no friend, and this is an opinion of my own. I apologise in advance to those who might be shocked by my unsentimental approach to the Christmas debauchery of money, stuff that will be worn only once, gifts that will end up being exchanged for other gifts, or land in second hand shops, food that will prompt million of women into a 2 month weight losing program.

I was born a roman catholic in a country without chimneys - the People's Republic would provide for decent modern heating- and Santa was St Nicholas, who would show up the very day of my anniversary, which I found truly unfair. Christmas was about going to the Church, and New Year's Day about visiting relatives who could not make the journey.

From my childhood years, I do not remember of gifts going along with Christmas.

A long time later, my one-year old nephew, who had been duly spoiled on his first Christmas, was busy playing with the wraps and ribbons and not the 16 different items he had received, much at his parents and grand-parents dismay.

To me, as of today, Christmas is just another marketing operation. Well, we need one every 6 weeks, according to marketing gurus. So we get Christmas, Valentine's day, Easter, Mother's and Father's day, then the summer sales, marketing strategists still struggling to find something before Halloween, the time span is long but true, parents spend a lot on back-to-school items, and Christmas again. Did I miss out something?  The mid-season sales, the rule of thumb being that mid season in London lasts the whole year. What about Halloween? French Halloween has evolved into a massive marketing happening, most people ignoring the tradition in which this celebration is rooted.

So here's my theory: the more the event is drained of its original, genuine meaning and purpose, the greater marketing advantage to be extracted from it. Caution, I have nothing against shop owners, Toys'r Us, HMV, Nokia, Harvey Nichs, the four Bees, Veuve Cliquot and marketing professionals. As I say, there is no comedy without a public. If I were in the retail business, I would as any try to make the most of buying binges. As often, I am being provocative on purpose.

What do we think about when our hangover is over? Good resolutions come in handy on New Year's Day. As good a cure as any for a delicate stomach.

The first year I was in London, my husband and I thought hilarious (and quite clever) the idea of Oxfam to offer a goat (or another animal) as a Christmas gift. My father-in-law never actually received` the goat, but it went to an African village. Warning, gift suitable for someone already bestowed with a good sense of humor.

But still. How many citizens of the global village actually celebrate Christmas? How many celebrate it as a part of a religious tradition?  A Jewish friend of mine, who still lives in Poland and visited Paris a couple of days ago, was astonished at Christmas being taken as an excuse for a shopping spree. We can go shopping even when it's not Hanukah, she said.

So what do we exactly celebrate on Christmas Eve, Christmas day? What values do we aim to pass on to our children, even if we are agnostic, atheist or whatever the word.

What does Christmas mean to you? A tough one, I know. And tough times, at least for me, as Christmas is the opportunity to wonder "what did I do to improve myself, to make a contribution? "  In the real world, Santa does not make any wonders, and gives no clues.

Display:
Actually, decorations, food, drink and presents to ward off the mid-winter blues is the genuine meaning and purpose of the winter solstice feast as far as I'm concerned. Sure, lots of people overdo it, but people overdo everything.

And for this line, I may have to hate you:

I was pacing the streets of Paris this afternoon

I was pacing the streets of Dublin, in lieu of cancelled meetings, and almost entirely failing to get my quite simple shopping done. There are days I hate living in a provincial capital.
by Colman (colman at eurotrib.com) on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 12:52:57 PM EST
I could never hate you Colman, even if I had to pace the streets of Cork for my Christmas shopping. Dublin, at least, is a beautiful city. Any Cork inhabitants around ? If so, I must file a disclaimer ;-)

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:02:58 PM EST
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At some stage recently Dublin passed some sort of economic event horizon that ensures that most of the shops being installed on the main streets are jewellry-type places selling appalling expensive glittery things. Not helpful.

I've never been able to get the hang of Cork either.

by Colman (colman at eurotrib.com) on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:08:44 PM EST
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Would that help if you were after a cashmere shawl, and had the choice between 34 different, but not distinctively enough, versions of the item ? ;-)

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:20:42 PM EST
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They were too similiar to each other or none was distinctive enough for you?
by Colman (colman at eurotrib.com) on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:44:42 PM EST
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Do cashmere shawls differ in more than colour?
by Colman (colman at eurotrib.com) on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:50:28 PM EST
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Yes, or it was my doom day ;-) In fact cashmere means only a certain type of wool, so it then depends on the quality of wool itself. Don't worry for me, it was just an example for the purpose of the demonstration, I was not after a cashmere shawl actually.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 03:39:53 PM EST
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Now that's a guy question if there ever was one.

The fact is that what we're experiencing right now is a top-down disaster. -Paul Krugman
by dvx (dvx.clt ät gmail dotcom) on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 10:49:12 AM EST
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Once again, if that was not clear enough in the text itself, the whole of it is not to be taken at face value. I did not aim at unravelling the fundamentals of modern Christmas celebrations, but to stir questioning on the meaning we give Christmas (and how we share it with our children) when it is not about a religious commemoration.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 01:16:46 PM EST
My explanation:

"Christmas is the mid winter feast and the Christians jumped on it and pretended it was there's, just like they did with Easter."

The sun gets up at nine, or hides behind the gray sky; it goes to bed at three and then...twinkly lights!

Twinkly lights is Christmas; being inside or going outside into the dark...even the street lights are twinkly.  And presents for the kids and presents for the adults, coz everyone likes to get a present...unless it's from someone they don't like and a present that serves no purpose.  I expect presents match budgets...something slightly more expensive than you might normally expect (e.g. a CD you wouldn't buy coz it's always been full price, so someone buys it for you--full price!--that's a nice present.  Or a book you would normally wait to buy in paperback--someone buys you the hardback!

And for kids it's the big toy...this year it seems "heelies" are the thing...they'll be worn until the feet become to large (growing kids...)

And the christians can go to church, while the rest of us get up late (well, at 3.30 am as kid(s) jump(s) on bed, eyes wide, and then unwrap(s) presents (always more than one...lotsa little presents!), rip rip goes the paper--what a waste, unlike those sunday newspapers some people still buy (ho ho ho!)...and then zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!

And a long walk in the countryside with a good friend (or with the family etc...) on the 27th or the 28th...and then it's New Year (the strange party that doesn't celebrate anything, but is a celebration...which seems to go deep into people and so has lots of tears attached...from what I've seen, though I'm more the arms crossed, "For old acquaintance be forgot, and never more la la, la la la la la la la-la, for the sake of old langsye.  For old langsye, my friend..." etc.

Don't fight forces, use them R. Buckminster Fuller.

by rg (leopold dot lepster at google mail dot com) on Sun Dec 17th, 2006 at 11:51:41 AM EST
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PS: thanks for the diary, Agnes!

Here's my myth about Santa and rudolph.

Eat one of these (not recommended unless you are a fungologist!) and you will also be flying through the sky and delivering presents to everyone through the night...

Part of the reasons behind the medical misinformation surrounding Amanita muscaria is due to the fact that many people who have presented to physicians with stated "mushroom poisoning" were generally thought to have ingested A. phalloides. They then usually promptly administer atropine, which would be fine if one had indeed ingested this toxic mushroom. But it only exacerbates toxic effects of the raw Amanita muscaria several hundred fold, sometimes resulting in the death of the patient (and this only infrequently). Known deaths recorded from it are rare. These have usually been children who ate large amounts of the raw mushroom. One child died only after eating almost two dozen large raw specimens.

But Santa and Rudolph, and Donner, Blitzen and all the rest...know what they're doing...check out my nose!



Don't fight forces, use them R. Buckminster Fuller.

by rg (leopold dot lepster at google mail dot com) on Sun Dec 17th, 2006 at 12:11:12 PM EST
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being late seems to rule my behaviour these days, so I came in too late to comment on your great diary on flower power, ElcoB. But still, as my bouquets last more than one week, i feel it's still time to say well done, and good to see you again.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 03:42:49 PM EST
I was born a roman catholic in a country without chimneys - the People's Republic would provide for decent modern heating

That depends where. Definately not in rural areas or in the pre-war buildings.  My Polish christmases were primarily Zakopane with side trips to Krakow and a farm east of Krakow - all chimney equipped.  They also came with a long car trip in the backseat of a car overloaded with stuff - full trunk, roof rack, and most of the back seat.

by MarekNYC on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 04:21:33 PM EST
Meanwhile, can you confirm what Agnes wrote about traditionally not giving/getting presents on Christmas day for your relatives?

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.
by DoDo on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:26:34 PM EST
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I'd find that interesting; as far as I know (but I may be wrong), both in Hungary and in Catholic-majority German-language areas, there is a longer tradition to Christmas presents.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.
by DoDo on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:28:28 PM EST
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Well, what Marek says about chimneys is quite right, my Christmases took place in Gdansk, quite an industrial city at that time. As for Christmas gifts, the tradition in my family was the same as was in North-Eastern France : gifts came with St Nicholas. But that was 30 years ago.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:42:59 PM EST
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Here and in German areas, the (continuing) St. Nicholas tradition is to give only sweets (hidden into boots), and a birch to bad children.

I note that I experienced an opposed change in tradition for Easter (though I have no clue how long or widespread the old tradition was: in my early childhood, I also got presents then (hidden in the bushes in the garden), but older, only chocolate eggs and rabbits.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:05:51 AM EST
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Everybody gave and received presents, though on Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day. Basic Christmas Eve schedule - lunch with 'Jewish carp' (in aspic with raisins) and herring, rest, place the presents under the tree, get into formal clothes, exchange mass wafer and wishes for the following year, ceremonial dinner - beet soup, veggie pierogi, breaded carp with horseradish, sing Christmas carols, open presents. Strictly no meat allowed on Christmas Eve.
by MarekNYC on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:42:34 PM EST
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That I can confirm. Strictly no meat on Christmas Eve. And no gifts, focus was on devotion and prayers.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:44:56 PM EST
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The devotion and prayer thing wasn't really on the schedule unless you count the carols and midnight mass. But considering that much of the family is agnostic that's to be expected. Otherwise more like Thanksgiving in the US plus presents - ritualized family reunion.
by MarekNYC on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:48:31 PM EST
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My family tradition (and as far as I can tell, that of the familiers of most people I know) is to celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve only with the narrowest family, at home but then meet with various subsets of the wider family over the next two days. I attend altogether 3-6 (usually 4) get-togethers.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.
by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:20:12 AM EST
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on Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day

Here, too. Funny, I didn't even realise that this is a difference in traditions until I read you. Even though I have seen so many American films when children discover the presents in the morning, and know the whole Santa-climbs-down-the-chimney mythology.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:14:19 AM EST
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You too?

I thought we in Sweden were the odd ones in exchanging gifts on Christmas Eve. The cultural power of the US makes its presence known. Anyway in Sweden if you have children, Jultomten (Santa, but with a lot of gnome), knocks on your door and hands out the presents. One of the adults, mostly a male person, is at the same time absent as he is out buying a newspaper.

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by A swedish kind of death on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 02:16:14 PM EST
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Speaking of Santa, it's interesting how St. Nicholas made it through Reformation into Protestant traditions, but associated with Christmas, and then made it back into the culture of Catholic countries.

In Germany, when I was there (a time since when Americanisation progressed much), Sankt Niklaus (St. Nicholas) and Weinachtsmann ( 'Christmas Man', Santa) were strictly different terms for identical-looking figures. In Hungary, where communist attempts to at least replace religious traditions led to the creation of the word Télapó (=Uncle Winter, based on the Soviet example of Ded Moroz), which was then associated with Christmas, but by the time I was a child, completely fused with the original Mikulás (a common-language adaptation of St. Nicholas). Now with the influx of US culture, the connection to Christmas is maintained (though in most families it is still "little Jesus" who brings the presents, announced by the sounding of a little bell).

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 03:11:52 PM EST
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For me, Christmas is christmas tree, christmas carols, meeting family, eating fish or turkey and various desserts with poppy seed in it (yes an awful lot of it), yes presents too (though not of the totally impractical kind).

I too dislike the commercialisation, most the ever earlier beginning of "Christmas season", signified by the ever earlier installation of Christmas lights. When I went to West Germany, I was already astonished that they start it not days but 3-4 weeks earlier -- though there it was partly traditional, it's the Advent and Weinachtsmarkt --, but this year, the big shops istalled lights at the beginning of November... totally depreciates the speciality of it.

I also dislike the new middle-class trend of competing with energy-wasting and gaudy outdoor Christmas lights. It has started to sweep over into Europe. (I wrote elsewhere that my new neighbour put it out -- now I checked, I find in my whole street, only he and the house opposite mine has them, it must be a competition between these two.) Now here is bit of a paradox, I like public Christmas lights, but on one hand those are usually not tasteless and not an expression of competitive vanity, on the other hand, it bothers me even in that case when no attempt is made at limiting energy use (today that means using white LEDs).

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 05:25:05 PM EST
desserts with poppy seed in it (yes an awful lot of it)

Try Kutia or makowiec  Kutia is a Polish/Ukrainian dish. Courtesy of the post WWII migrations it became particularly common in western Poland, though now it's quite common all over the place.

by MarekNYC on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 06:04:22 PM EST
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I love it!

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 09:36:35 PM EST
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Makowiez appears to be the Polish version of the poppy-seed Strudel, which we also have (it's the primary Christmas dessert in Hungary). Kutia sounds like something I should try, thanks for the recipe!

In return, here is the dish that is the promary Christmas dessert in my family, the "mákosguba":

I can give a recipe.

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:38:49 AM EST
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Yes, please do !

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:51:38 AM EST
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Okay. Ingredients for six persons (but usually consumed over three days by much less persons...):

* 16 crescent rolls, ~70-80 dkg (I'm not sure about the translation of this bakery product; but below a picture, meant is the most basic form made with water and not covered with either salt of cheese or similar)

  • 50 dkg (or more) poppy seed
  • 50 dkg (or more) powdered sugar
  • 1.5 l milk
  • three bags (2x9 g) of vanilla sugar or 4-5 teaspoonfuls of vanilla extract or 12-15 cm vanilla bean

Preparation starts two days before finishing, by putting the crescent rolls on a plate to dry. After 24 hours, cut up the crescent rolls into c. 1 cm thick round parts, again place them on plates and let them dry another day. Then collect it all into a bowl.

Mill the poppy seeds and mix it with the powdered sugar in a curved-bottom ceramic or glass bowl until it is well mixed and of powdery substance. (Use a spoon! The milled poppy seed will be wet, part of the sugar will take that up, but you need to crush apart clumps on the wall of the bowl.)

Pour 1 l milk and two thirds of the vanilla into a larger saucepan and start boiling. Place the bowl with the crescent roll pieces, remaining milk and vanilla, the poppy-sugar mix, a spatula, and a third, empty bowl all within arms length.

Now comes the difficult part.

When the milk boils, reduce the flame to economic, and throw two handful of crescent roll pieces on the milk. Just when the crescent roll parts submerge, use the spatula to lift them out, place them into the third bowl distributed as a layer, and strew it with poppy-sugar. Repeat the same procedure with the rest of the crescent roll parts, always in amounds of two handfuls. If the milk gets scarce, pour more milk and vanilla into the saucepan. During the whole time, regulate the gas/cooking plate thusly that boiling doesn't stop, especially after milk refill.

When finished, cover the top with more poppy-sugar, then put the bowl with the mákosguba into the entrance room or a window to cool. WHen served, you can eat it as it is, or with some kind of jam (as on the picture), or with vanilla créme. Store it cold, or it'll turn into pasta immerced in alcoholic bewerage after a few days...

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 10:30:30 AM EST
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It is striking how some posters see poppy seed pastry as particular to one country or another as a kind of national tradition. This kind of pastry is found from Germany, the rest of Central Europe to deep in the Balkans and Russia. Europe has European traditions and practices which supersedes the states, not matter what, long before the European Common Market even began to appear on the horizon. As if I'm saying something new and wise. It just seems to me that individuals are generally becoming more and more fixated on mythical cultural and ethnic pasts as a way of compensating for...what? Oh well, go shopping. I spent my Xmases in New Jersey and they were family horror episodes, literally devastating, so you can imagine how I fanatically try to avoid the 'festivities'. I may be imagining things (?) but it seems that this year in Amsterdam there are fewer decorations in windows and shops than previously. The New Year's Eve fireworks have also become negligible. What's going on? A pervasive bad mood?
by Quentin on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 09:01:02 AM EST
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It reminds me of an "International Party" at a student conference where all the Mediterranean students were intending to brag about their cured ham (ES: jamón serrano, IT: prosciutto). It turns out you can find essentially the same product from Portugal to Germany to Greece, but everyone thinks it's peculiar to them.

Those whom the Gods wish to destroy They first make mad. -- Euripides
by Carrie (migeru at eurotrib dot com) on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 09:32:14 AM EST
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I agree in general, though note that as far as I know, the Strudel type of desserts spread from German-language areas along with the German settlers who migrated to the areas of people to the East (usually becoming city people bringing crafts).

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.
by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 10:37:35 AM EST
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One more thing I can't stand:

The singing & dancing Santa robots. For some reason this year, every fifth shop in Budapest thinks these hyper-kitsch products raise customer appeal...

*Lunatic*, n.
One whose delusions are out of fashion.

by DoDo on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 08:28:46 AM EST
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For me Santa involves a 500 mile round trip to the parental bosom in the morning, to Northamptonshire. So the opportunity of rest during the weekend is sadly out the window.

Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out.
by ceebs (ceebs (at) eurotrib (dot) com) on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 07:49:14 PM EST
I find Christmas is a time for me to celebrate my culture with my nuclear family and insure that my daughter has at least some of my cultural roots. Not a Christian thing for me but just a time of year I have always enjoyed with friends, family, good food, good drink and the joy of giving.
by observer393 on Fri Dec 15th, 2006 at 11:59:31 PM EST
My theory on Santa:  he helps to continue the myth of the undeserving poor, that they're that way because they are bad and lazy.  Good children get gifts, those who get coal or no gifts were "bad."  The stigma of poverty isn't enough, the poor are also bad and undeserving, as proven by Santa (but I repeat myself.)

I went to the home of someone who had gifts for their child spread out under the tree.  One could hardly fit into the room, there were so many gifts.  My instant thought was "Christmas bulemia."

My husband (the frugal German) and I do not exchange gifts at Christmas, Valentines' Day, etc.  We love each other all year long, every day, without having to prove it with jewels and cars and finery.  I'm personally skeptical about taking cues from Capitalists about how to show my love for others.  It seems an especially strange thing to do at CHRISTmas.  And I'm not even a Christian.

Thanks for letting me spread some cheer (snark.)

Karen in Austin

'tis strange I should be old and neither wise nor valiant. From "The Maid's Tragedy" by Beaumont & Fletcher

by Wife of Bath (kareninaustin at g mail dot com) on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 06:23:08 AM EST
Christmas is the adaptation and use of the gift economy structure in to the capitlaists economic structure.....

because may be, only may be..a gift economy would be nicer and more stable thatn the capitalist one...

So.. go gift economy !!! (wiki is always useful) Go gift go

I can nto emphasize enough how much "Sur le don" (or was it sour in french or.. oh my frecnh is awful... maybe sur les dons....  ok I mean the classic book about gifts) probalby one of the best scientific documents/books in french ever..(at least top three).

A pleasure

I therefore claim to show, not how men think in myths, but how myths operate in men's minds without their being aware of the fact. Levi-Strauss, Claude

by kcurie on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 11:35:36 AM EST
Do you mean "Essai sur le don" from Marcel Mauss?

"Dieu se rit des hommes qui se plaignent des conséquences alors qu'ils en chérissent les causes" Jacques-Bénigne Bossuet
by Melanchthon on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 04:00:46 PM EST
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Here is the english version: Marcel Mauss

"Dieu se rit des hommes qui se plaignent des conséquences alors qu'ils en chérissent les causes" Jacques-Bénigne Bossuet
by Melanchthon on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 04:13:04 PM EST
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Absolutely ... el Essai is variable... but "sur le don" is how it has been commonly refered to be....

ANd yes , is Mauss but I guessed that was known... it was  botched joke. I actually never remember theproper translation in french.. in Spanish I know perfectly the name...and I have checked the original name a couple of tiems to give the correct reference and not saying "sobre los dones. Ensaño" or "ensaño sobre los dones", in spanish it does not sound that nice.. well actually it does not sound as if I knew what I ma talking about... but to no effect.. I just can not remember the correct spelling in french.. I forget it every other year...

So it was a self-degrading joke...

But yes I was talking about Sobre lso dones de M. Mauss.

Thanks..melan..for the liks and the spelling that  I was so lazy not to look in google ...you are a crack

A pleasure

I therefore claim to show, not how men think in myths, but how myths operate in men's minds without their being aware of the fact. Levi-Strauss, Claude

by kcurie on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 06:21:51 PM EST
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The xmas holidays have become an unpleasant time for me when I have to reprogram my head, against all influences, to make it a seasonal celebration with some personal meaning.  Since I am planet hopping, it takes time to find similarly-minded people to hold reunions with a non-mass focus.

I give minor gifts to whom I please and pointed ones when I am socially forced.  I drew two names in my needless family this year:  A little great-niece who is getting natural sweets and non-tech toys, and the 30´ish husband-of-a-niece who is a hunter and will get a gift certificate for WWF or such.

My new calendar is meant to revolve around people who prepare good food, while I give a party, but not cook.

<24 WINTER SOLSTICE, day of calming, reflecting and EATING before the stretching of new light.

25 FOOD FEAST to start a week of preparation for an improved new year.

28  is the equivalent of April Fools, but it has a sickening bible connection here:  The Innocent children killed by Herod.

31  YEAR´S END celebration, EATING and taking 12 grapes at midnight to end preparation week.

  1.  NEW YEAR´S food feast to start off full of pep.
  2.  EPIPHANY in Spain is the traditional gift day, brought by the three wise-guys that saw the star...  Good reason to EAT just in case.


Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.
by metavision on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 01:34:47 PM EST
I here admit to being the product of the modern - materialistic - meaning of Christmas. As a kid, I experienced the whole nine yards - sitting on the lap of a department-store Santa, nagging my parents to buy me whatever I saw on TV 30 seconds ago, the works.

But I have fond memories of those Chrismases. Because there was also a lot of time spent with family and friends. And besides, getting stuff is fun. And as you get older, giving stuff can be even more fun (although if you're like me, shopping for stuff is absolute torture). And the feeling of being with family and/or friends for a special occasion is also fun. If I can have that, I don't need the high spiritual stuff.

And as I advance in years (and since living ten degrees in latitude north of where I was born and bred), Christmas also serves the increasingly important function of carrying me up to the turning point of the Great Dark. (I went out at 3 this afternoon and it was already so dark you couldn't read a paper; if I had to endure 6 months of that with nothing in between to look forward to I don't know what I'd turn into.)

The fact is that what we're experiencing right now is a top-down disaster. -Paul Krugman

by dvx (dvx.clt ät gmail dotcom) on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 01:46:29 PM EST
Thank you! I like reading everyone's very distinctive takes on the holiday. Here's mine.

Growing up, I used to dread Christmas Day (as opposed to the rest of the Christmas "season," when we got off from school and could do nothing but skate, go to new children's movies and read by the fireplace for ten straight glorious days). Christmas Day, unfortunately, waa always tense and usually deeply depressing, ruined by one alcoholic aunt/uncle or another throwing a fit, my grandmothers sobbing in the kitchen, at least one cousin being rushed off to the emergency ward ... you get the picture. It struck me as such an awful day that I remember always being in the best of moods on Christmas Day when I lived in Tokyo -- where it's basically just another workday. How I have always loved being an adult!

Ironically, I've really begun to enjoy Christmas, at least in New York, the last five years and not coincidentally because my lover is Jewish. I have my chanukah-lempl out right now, and I'm debating whether to get a (Christmas) tree or not. I love the way they look lined up in alleys on Manhattan sidewalks. Best of all is realizing that my nearest family member is 970 miles away! Gan Eden.

I know there are wingnuts who blame Jewish department store owners and film magnates for "commercializing" the holidays, but I think we owe them a groysem dank for bringing us all back to our healthy pagan roots. And it's not as if people are unmaterialistic the other 364 days of the year!

So Merry Christmas, a Freylikhn Yontif, a Joyous Kwanzaa, whatever, to one and all.

by Matt in NYC on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 10:22:25 PM EST
Christmas was just plain hell for me when I was young.  My father was a preacher (Swedish Lutheran) so we as the family were just part of the salvation show.  I was in countless pageants and trips to old folks homes.  My mother was SO stressed out from all the baking, entertaining, and organizing musical rehearsals, she was a mess.  One Christmas, I was in 14 choral performances included three of Handel's Messiah and two of the Bach Christmas Oratorio.

Christmas was SO stressful I still hated it into my 40s. Of course, I am not alone-MANY people list Christmas as their least favorite holiday and the number of suicides at that time of the year is staggering.

The main problem is that NO ONE'S Christmas can even come close to what is portrayed by the advertising. This is true even IF you have a ton of money-and it is especially true if money is tight.

But lately, I have come to actually enjoy Christmas. The key was understanding the concept of limits. My decorations are limited to candles and flowers. I limit my guests to 10. I only give something I can make or write myself (one year, I compiled a CD of my favorite Christmas music and wrote some clever "liner notes"-discovered that over 25 years of singing in choirs actually had a payoff). I refuse to even think about the holidays until Dec 21st. And I only give to local charities I know are making a difference.

But the latest fun Christmas event involves a rural church and its preservation society that I belong to. The church has been out of "business" since the early 70s but it is in an astonishingly beautiful location and is on the national register of historic places. For a dozen years now, we have held a Christmas Eve "historical re-enactment" (since as a preservation society, we cannot hold a real church service.) This is about great music, singing, candle light, decoration, and too much sweet food. Our Christmas "service" has become so popular, we may have to start selling tickets, we have retired clergy volunteering for at least the next 10 years, and our music now borders on world-class. And why is it so popular? Because there is NO pressure!-we don't even ask for money! We may be practicing religion lite, but I'll bet there are few real churches where there is so much smiling and genuine joy.


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by techno (reply@elegant-technology.com) on Sat Dec 16th, 2006 at 11:15:01 PM EST
So here's my theory: the more the event is drained of its original, genuine meaning and purpose, the greater marketing advantage to be extracted from it.
My theory is that we all, individually and with our family and loved ones, decide for ourselves what Christmas is.  Businesses, churches, atheists, etc, etc, proclaim their view of Christmas.  But for each of us, it's our choice as to what to do with this time of year.

For me, it's a wonderful time.  In Chicago, it's normally cold, sometimes with snow (actually very warm, for Chicago this year),,,,and the Golden Mile on Michigan Avenue is beautiful.  this year I can buy gifts in some of these beautiful shops--other years, I could just enjoy the lights, the scenery, and the bustle.

No matter how much money I've had in my life, I've been able to listen to the Messiah--sometimes a free concert, this year a paid one, others a CD.

there has almost always been a Christmas tree,,,the difference has been the number of presents under the tree.  but somehow, the number has never mattered.  It's always been a joyous period, for the kids, parents, and grandparents--I've been in all three categories.

Certainly there has been some melancholy and sadness during some years.  Families by their nature have death, sometimes tragic death,,,,and therefore there are years when it's the first anniversary of a Christmas without,,,my mom, my wife, a child.  And there is the paradox of the "hole in the heart" because they are missing, and the smile at remembering their smile at some other Christmas.  But we all know, regardless of what spiritual view of life we want to take, that it's just the flow of life--the Tao for some, Christianity for others--regardless of how you want to put it, life has a flow,,,and we're all in it.

So for my family over many generations, it's a wonderful time of the year.  Yes, I'm afraid for us, recalling an earlier thread, "It's a wonderful life"--Jimmy Stuart and all.  Or it's a Miracle on Michigan Avenue,,,err, 34th Street.  Or it's Happy Christmas in London.  Or Mass at midnight,,,.

It's what we make of it, not what others tell us, or "market" to us that it should be.  It's our life after all.

PS: Merry Christmas, Happy Christmas, Felice Navidad (better stop here).  All the best to all of you.

by wchurchill on Sun Dec 17th, 2006 at 01:25:31 AM EST


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