Mon Nov 30th, 2009 at 01:09:11 PM EST
What succeeds is not a bucket list.
Apparently a bucket list is a list of goals necessary to your life, to be achieved before you die (kick the bucket).
Intuitively that doesn't make me like the concept much - when a list is a prerequisite to map out highlights of one's life, then how much joy is in life in the meantime? Personally, I want to be able to look back now and feel complete. Of course I'm quite easy to please.
To a mind chronically spoonfed by newsfeeds, nattering televisions, career pressures, endless relation busts and other distractive inconsequentialities, travelling about does wonders to disconnect from the modern frenzy. The surface was scratched while guiding people in Sweden, a few years back, and it continues today.
Shed the rubbish, embrace the core: what are the things which thrive you as a person? A numeration of "resolutions" if you will. Not a bucket list. Just a few things to work towards to, to cherish in advance.
- To snorkel
- Learn how to board surf
- Attend a service in a mosque
- Attend a service in a synagogue
- Try space cake
- Improve on Spanish
- Crossing Andalucía, preferably solo
- Experience an earthquake (not one too severe please)
- Fly Business Class just once
- Horse back riding (done!)
- A Delta Flight safari
- See Wild Dog in the wild
- Cross southern Africa
- Hear the roar of lions once more
- Climb Mount Kilimanjaro
- Climb a mountain higher than 4000 meters anyway
- Write something that makes someone cry
- Family dinners on Christmas Eve
- Keep up with capoeira
- Become a father - at some point
I guess I stopped after 20. A nice round, friendly number without being too ambitious. Not too sure about the rate of crossing them off. We'll find out.
And yet. When people say, "Don't think of an Elephant!" you do anyway.
Would I learn today I'd have only two weeks left to live - I'd pick perhaps only one item from the list above, but about that one I'm certain. I'd fly back to Africa, and would want to experience the nearby roar of lions during the African sunset one more time.
Does anyone else has a particular list?